Here I am blogging on my first day at Koochi land*. I woke up early today to make sure that I dont come in late. I didn't feel like dressing up on my first day. In my previous jobs, my usual first day is a mix of admin processing, a bit of interior decorating, and a dash of office carpentry. Having been through such days I opted to wear a short sleeved shirt for comfort and a more subdued 'porma' - fit for fixing my desk and moving things around.
I went through the usual admin stuff like going to the bank to open a payroll account, produce photos, attend orientations and meet the bosses. I also had the opportunity to meet my new colleagues. I met Sim and Miles. Sim does graphics and Miles writes everything for everybody. They were both cool. Sim sells paintings and Miles is very enthusiatics to have a blogsite of her own. I have this feeling that we will get along as a team. Boss was out the whole day so I didn't have much to do (that's why i'm blogging).
My Desk
I was a bit dissapointed when I walked into the Marketing department's cube(?). The place was cramped, not carpeted, with bad looking tables and assorted chairs (reminds me of bangkal street's famous second-hand shops). Stacks of paper are everywhere and the tables have no locks. My comp is facing a low panel and behind me is the rest of the marketing group. Everybody can see everybody's pc...so much for privacy.
My Comp
Several minutes and a few handshakes later, I finally got to sit down and fire up my computer. Just like the room, it was dissapointing. I got a lousy machine running on win98 with a 15 inch monitor, slow internet, blocked webpages, no chikka (thank god they have YM - no webcams allowed tho), no MS OFFICE! and slow internet ( i think i mentioned that already, oh well, just stressing my point). grrr. I suddenly appreciated my old comp in my previous work despite the many disk and OS crashes it caused me. If comps are cars, my previous comp would be a ferrari and this would be a sarao.
Oh well, such is life, you win some and you lose some. I guess all the dissapointments would disappear come payday. I think I should have slept longer. I'm too cranky.
* codename for my present company
Wednesday, July 07, 2004
Friday, June 25, 2004
Attention Ladies!
I am not big on forwarded email. I read some and keep only the best. Unfortunately, a lot of harddisk crashes and formatting wiped out all the best email I've collected since my introduction to the internet and email. I have below one of those emails that provided me a template for helping friends suffering from a common female hearthache - falling for somebody who is already attached.
Read on friends.
He doesn't love you enough...
During what women believe to be the start of a budding romance, certainty about where the relationship is going is never questioned. To us, it's in the bag without necessarily saying this out loud.He calls,he tells me he misses me, asks me out often, is relentlessly sweet and thoughtful. I am always on cloud nine and apologetically unable to wipe the grin off my face.I am in love with him and although he hasn't said so yet, I am sure he loves me too.
Herein lies the tragedy. Until a man asks you to be his girlfriend,you are not on safe ground. No matter how few the minutes are between his text messages or his phone calls,even if he has tried to hold your hand, carefully pick off the eyelash from under your eye,and wipe the crumb perched on your upper lip, assume that he just wants to be friends. Assume otherwise and you'll be in for great big heartbreak. Men are almost formulaic especially those who have remained single after 25. When faced with the same given in the same situation, no matter where they come from, they will all do the same thing.
Enter the questions women love to ask:
1. Why hasn't he called me in the past few days;
2. If he likes being me with so much, why doesn't he leave his girlfriend/wife for me?
As much as we would like to fall back into thinking men are idiots and need a little shove off into the right direction, it's better to keep your hands where they are. Do not text, call or make a bigger fool of yourself. There s just one answer to all the questions: He doesn't love you enough. Let's take each situation one at a time. He hasn't called you in the past few days. Women will immediately assume that there s something wrong. His cellphone is off, he is sick, he got into an accident, he's upset with me, etc. We say to ourselves, It's okay for me to text him, at least he'll think that I care about him and that I'm thoughtful. Plus once lang naman to eh. After this I'll never initiate texting. More brazen women could come right out at the guy and ask, Why haven't you called me? Whenever my women friends tell me they did this, I visibly cringe and have to stop myself from hitting them on the head. You see, a man's initial feelings for a woman are not usually carved in stone. How he feels about you is very much like writing on the sand. You have to be careful so that he won't change his mind about you. My guy friends who confide in me (voluntarily) have the same facial statement when they tell me about the girl who asked them the question,Why haven't you called me? They look like they have the heebie-jeebies. They freak out and start complaining about this. They haven't called you because they don t feel like it. They might feel like it later but at the moment they don't so they won't. They are aware that you exist and don't need you to remind them about it. Do you want that? I don't think so. They also tell me that men are entitled to change their mind the way women do. They are also flaky and not sure all the time.
Sometimes men are looking for icing on the cake in the form of a woman friend who plugs in all the gaps that his better half cannot fill. She is usually somebody with slightly different qualities than his mate. He enjoys being with her, calls her all the time, consults with her about life-altering decisions but does not really come out and make a decision about who he wants to be with simply because he is in a safe place. He has the best of both worlds and doesn't need to make a choice. If he hasn't left his girlfriend for you yet, chances are, he won't. She is still his priority. When she calls and asks him to pick her up,he hurriedly finishes his meal and tells you he has to go. When you ask him out on days when he has to take her home, he'll say he can't. You notice that you are only together when his schedule permits it and when seeing you does not conflict with his time with his girlfriend. You get the crumbs. This kind of arrangement only tells you that he doesn't love you enough for him to forsake his girlfriend for you. If he takes a chance by leaving her for you, you're sure that he loves you. Most men would stay with the safe, the tried and tested over risking everything.
Obviously, you don't want to be second best. Find someone who will make you his only priority. Although they pretend and seem otherwise, men are not idiots when it comes to matters of the heart.They know fully well what they want out of the relationship. They do not need to be rescued by you. They don't need hints, carefully crafted text messages or highway billboards that promise them a bed of roses with you. If he really likes you, he will do anything to get you to like him back. You just have to sit there and wait for your nails to dry. Trust me. I can get enough signatures from the creeps to validate this.
Read on friends.
He doesn't love you enough...
During what women believe to be the start of a budding romance, certainty about where the relationship is going is never questioned. To us, it's in the bag without necessarily saying this out loud.He calls,he tells me he misses me, asks me out often, is relentlessly sweet and thoughtful. I am always on cloud nine and apologetically unable to wipe the grin off my face.I am in love with him and although he hasn't said so yet, I am sure he loves me too.
Herein lies the tragedy. Until a man asks you to be his girlfriend,you are not on safe ground. No matter how few the minutes are between his text messages or his phone calls,even if he has tried to hold your hand, carefully pick off the eyelash from under your eye,and wipe the crumb perched on your upper lip, assume that he just wants to be friends. Assume otherwise and you'll be in for great big heartbreak. Men are almost formulaic especially those who have remained single after 25. When faced with the same given in the same situation, no matter where they come from, they will all do the same thing.
Enter the questions women love to ask:
1. Why hasn't he called me in the past few days;
2. If he likes being me with so much, why doesn't he leave his girlfriend/wife for me?
As much as we would like to fall back into thinking men are idiots and need a little shove off into the right direction, it's better to keep your hands where they are. Do not text, call or make a bigger fool of yourself. There s just one answer to all the questions: He doesn't love you enough. Let's take each situation one at a time. He hasn't called you in the past few days. Women will immediately assume that there s something wrong. His cellphone is off, he is sick, he got into an accident, he's upset with me, etc. We say to ourselves, It's okay for me to text him, at least he'll think that I care about him and that I'm thoughtful. Plus once lang naman to eh. After this I'll never initiate texting. More brazen women could come right out at the guy and ask, Why haven't you called me? Whenever my women friends tell me they did this, I visibly cringe and have to stop myself from hitting them on the head. You see, a man's initial feelings for a woman are not usually carved in stone. How he feels about you is very much like writing on the sand. You have to be careful so that he won't change his mind about you. My guy friends who confide in me (voluntarily) have the same facial statement when they tell me about the girl who asked them the question,Why haven't you called me? They look like they have the heebie-jeebies. They freak out and start complaining about this. They haven't called you because they don t feel like it. They might feel like it later but at the moment they don't so they won't. They are aware that you exist and don't need you to remind them about it. Do you want that? I don't think so. They also tell me that men are entitled to change their mind the way women do. They are also flaky and not sure all the time.
Sometimes men are looking for icing on the cake in the form of a woman friend who plugs in all the gaps that his better half cannot fill. She is usually somebody with slightly different qualities than his mate. He enjoys being with her, calls her all the time, consults with her about life-altering decisions but does not really come out and make a decision about who he wants to be with simply because he is in a safe place. He has the best of both worlds and doesn't need to make a choice. If he hasn't left his girlfriend for you yet, chances are, he won't. She is still his priority. When she calls and asks him to pick her up,he hurriedly finishes his meal and tells you he has to go. When you ask him out on days when he has to take her home, he'll say he can't. You notice that you are only together when his schedule permits it and when seeing you does not conflict with his time with his girlfriend. You get the crumbs. This kind of arrangement only tells you that he doesn't love you enough for him to forsake his girlfriend for you. If he takes a chance by leaving her for you, you're sure that he loves you. Most men would stay with the safe, the tried and tested over risking everything.
Obviously, you don't want to be second best. Find someone who will make you his only priority. Although they pretend and seem otherwise, men are not idiots when it comes to matters of the heart.They know fully well what they want out of the relationship. They do not need to be rescued by you. They don't need hints, carefully crafted text messages or highway billboards that promise them a bed of roses with you. If he really likes you, he will do anything to get you to like him back. You just have to sit there and wait for your nails to dry. Trust me. I can get enough signatures from the creeps to validate this.
Monday, June 21, 2004
The One That Got Away
Mike sent me this one the other day...
In your life, you'll make note of a lot of
people. Ones with whom you shared something
special, ones who will always mean something.
There's the one you first kissed, the one you
first loved, the one you lost your virginity to,
the one you put on a pedestal, the one you're
with...and the one that got away.
Who is the one that got away? I guess it's that
person with who everything was great, everything
was perfect, but the timing was just wrong.
There was no fault in the person, there was no
flaw in the chemistry, but the cards just didn't
fall the right way, I suppose.
I believe in the fact that ending up with
someone, finding a longtime partner that is,
does not lie merely in the other person. I can
actually argue that an equal part, or maybe even
the greater part, has to do with the matter of
timing. It has to do with you being ready to
settle down and commit to someon e in a way that
goes beyond the little niceties of giddy
romance.
How often have you gone through it without even
realizing it? When you're not ready to commit in
that mature manner, it doesn't matter who you're
with, it just doesn't work. Small problems
become big; inconsequentials become dealbreakers
simply because you're not ready and it shows.
It's not that you and the person you're with are
no good; it's just that it's not yet right, and
little things become the flashpoint of that fact.
Then one day you're ready. You really are. And
when this happens you'll be ready to settle down
with someone. He or she may not be the most
perfect,they might not be the brightest star of
romance to ever have burned in your life, but
it'll work because you're ready. It'll work
because it's the right time and you'll make it
work. And it'll make sense, it really will.
So that day comes when you're finally makin g
sense of things, and you find yourself to be a
different person. Things are different, your
approach is different, you finally understand
who you are and what you want, and you've become
ready because the time has truly arrived. And
mind you, there's no telling when this day will
come.
Hopefully you're single but you could be in a
long-term relationship, you could be married
with three kids, it doesn't matter. All you know
is that you've changed, and for some reason,
the one that got away, is the first person you
think about.
You'll think about them because you'll
wonder, "What if they were here today?" You'll
wonder, "What if we were together now, with me
as I am and not as I was?" That's what the one
that got away is. The biggest "What if?"
you'll have in your life.
Maybe the one that got away is the one who's
already married. In which case it's the same
thing. You just have to accept and know that
your memories of that person will probably bring
a nice little smile to your lips in the future
when you're old and gray and reminiscing.
But if neither of that is the case, then it's
different. What do you do if it's not yet too
late? Simple...find him, find her. Because the
very existence of a "one that got away" means
that you'll always wonder, what if
you got that one?
You might drop in from out of nowhere and it
won't make a difference. If the timing is
finally right, it'll all just fall into place
somehow and you know, I'm thinking, it would be
a great feeling, in the end, to be able to
say to someone, "Hey you, you're the one that
almost got away."
In your life, you'll make note of a lot of
people. Ones with whom you shared something
special, ones who will always mean something.
There's the one you first kissed, the one you
first loved, the one you lost your virginity to,
the one you put on a pedestal, the one you're
with...and the one that got away.
Who is the one that got away? I guess it's that
person with who everything was great, everything
was perfect, but the timing was just wrong.
There was no fault in the person, there was no
flaw in the chemistry, but the cards just didn't
fall the right way, I suppose.
I believe in the fact that ending up with
someone, finding a longtime partner that is,
does not lie merely in the other person. I can
actually argue that an equal part, or maybe even
the greater part, has to do with the matter of
timing. It has to do with you being ready to
settle down and commit to someon e in a way that
goes beyond the little niceties of giddy
romance.
How often have you gone through it without even
realizing it? When you're not ready to commit in
that mature manner, it doesn't matter who you're
with, it just doesn't work. Small problems
become big; inconsequentials become dealbreakers
simply because you're not ready and it shows.
It's not that you and the person you're with are
no good; it's just that it's not yet right, and
little things become the flashpoint of that fact.
Then one day you're ready. You really are. And
when this happens you'll be ready to settle down
with someone. He or she may not be the most
perfect,they might not be the brightest star of
romance to ever have burned in your life, but
it'll work because you're ready. It'll work
because it's the right time and you'll make it
work. And it'll make sense, it really will.
So that day comes when you're finally makin g
sense of things, and you find yourself to be a
different person. Things are different, your
approach is different, you finally understand
who you are and what you want, and you've become
ready because the time has truly arrived. And
mind you, there's no telling when this day will
come.
Hopefully you're single but you could be in a
long-term relationship, you could be married
with three kids, it doesn't matter. All you know
is that you've changed, and for some reason,
the one that got away, is the first person you
think about.
You'll think about them because you'll
wonder, "What if they were here today?" You'll
wonder, "What if we were together now, with me
as I am and not as I was?" That's what the one
that got away is. The biggest "What if?"
you'll have in your life.
Maybe the one that got away is the one who's
already married. In which case it's the same
thing. You just have to accept and know that
your memories of that person will probably bring
a nice little smile to your lips in the future
when you're old and gray and reminiscing.
But if neither of that is the case, then it's
different. What do you do if it's not yet too
late? Simple...find him, find her. Because the
very existence of a "one that got away" means
that you'll always wonder, what if
you got that one?
You might drop in from out of nowhere and it
won't make a difference. If the timing is
finally right, it'll all just fall into place
somehow and you know, I'm thinking, it would be
a great feeling, in the end, to be able to
say to someone, "Hey you, you're the one that
almost got away."
Thursday, June 10, 2004
Rules of Relationships
Hi everybody! I got this from somewhere...
Barber's Rules of Relationships
BARBER'S FIRST RULE OF RELATIONSHIPS
If she's not sleeping with you, and she is sleeping with other people, no matter what nice words she is saying to you, DO NOT expect to have this person as an SO or wife -- ever!
BARBER'S SECOND RULE OF RELATIONSHIPS
When the woman you love does not treat you in public (among her other friends) the same way she treats you in private (i.e. you become "that man I'm with today" in public, as opposed to "you're the most important friend that I have" in private), you better not be planning on a long and happy future with this woman because she is not seeing things (the two of you together) the same way that you are -- and don't believe that you are going to suddenly change her either!
BARBER'S THIRD RULE OF RELATIONSHIPS
You're not over anybody as long as you keep talking about them to everybody else -- no matter what you are saying about them.
BARBER'S FOURTH RULE OF RELATIONSHIPS
The word "but" is one of the worst words to use in any intimate conversation with your SO. (If you mean "on the other hand", say so, or use "however".)
Other bad words are "you" followed by "should/would/must" (try replacing "you" with "I" and restructure the sentence accordingly) and "...n't" contractions (e.g. couldn't, shouldn't, wouldn't).
BARBER'S FIFTH RULE OF RELATIONSHIPS
Most people don't know what they want [from others]. They only know what they think they want, and they don't realize this is not what they want until after they get it. This can leave your partner feeling betrayed after they've given you what you say you want, and you've rejected their gift. Both sides must have some understanding here.
BARBER'S SIXTH RULE OF RELATIONSHIPS
Sex (or lack thereof) is the earliest, most reliable, indicator of other deeply hidden things gone wrong in a relationship. When a good sex life goes to bad or none, the real problem is almost anything except sex. It may range as far afield as job, money, relatives, and/or health problems -- to name only a few. Despite this being true, a majority of people will pretend and blame sex as their only problem until the point of no return, when everything disintegrates at once. Don't blame or ignore the sexual signals, and do try to work together to find and solve the real causes.
BARBER'S SEVENTH RULE OF RELATIONSHIPS
Anything can happen in a relationship, so allow for it!
Better yet, rejoice in it!!
BARBER'S EIGHTH RULE OF RELATIONSHIPS
Someone who only comes to you during the bad times in their life, will leave you each time you turn their bad times into good times.
BARBER'S NINTH RULE OF RELATIONSHIPS
Pain in a relationship is not an indication of how good a relationship is (as in, I can't believe how much I love this person; I want them so much it hurts), but rather how much is wrong with the relationship. Pain is telling us when it is time to move away; to pull our hand out of the flame.
The problem is that too many of us come to worship the pain, believing that it is the pain that makes the relationship real; and usually for too long we don't realize that it really is pain that we're feeling, and not some other emotion instead.
BARBER'S TENTH RULE OF RELATIONSHIPS
Never get involved with someone who is never wrong. (The only remaining option in such a relationship is that you must always be wrong.)
Barber's Rules of Relationships
BARBER'S FIRST RULE OF RELATIONSHIPS
If she's not sleeping with you, and she is sleeping with other people, no matter what nice words she is saying to you, DO NOT expect to have this person as an SO or wife -- ever!
BARBER'S SECOND RULE OF RELATIONSHIPS
When the woman you love does not treat you in public (among her other friends) the same way she treats you in private (i.e. you become "that man I'm with today" in public, as opposed to "you're the most important friend that I have" in private), you better not be planning on a long and happy future with this woman because she is not seeing things (the two of you together) the same way that you are -- and don't believe that you are going to suddenly change her either!
BARBER'S THIRD RULE OF RELATIONSHIPS
You're not over anybody as long as you keep talking about them to everybody else -- no matter what you are saying about them.
BARBER'S FOURTH RULE OF RELATIONSHIPS
The word "but" is one of the worst words to use in any intimate conversation with your SO. (If you mean "on the other hand", say so, or use "however".)
Other bad words are "you" followed by "should/would/must" (try replacing "you" with "I" and restructure the sentence accordingly) and "...n't" contractions (e.g. couldn't, shouldn't, wouldn't).
BARBER'S FIFTH RULE OF RELATIONSHIPS
Most people don't know what they want [from others]. They only know what they think they want, and they don't realize this is not what they want until after they get it. This can leave your partner feeling betrayed after they've given you what you say you want, and you've rejected their gift. Both sides must have some understanding here.
BARBER'S SIXTH RULE OF RELATIONSHIPS
Sex (or lack thereof) is the earliest, most reliable, indicator of other deeply hidden things gone wrong in a relationship. When a good sex life goes to bad or none, the real problem is almost anything except sex. It may range as far afield as job, money, relatives, and/or health problems -- to name only a few. Despite this being true, a majority of people will pretend and blame sex as their only problem until the point of no return, when everything disintegrates at once. Don't blame or ignore the sexual signals, and do try to work together to find and solve the real causes.
BARBER'S SEVENTH RULE OF RELATIONSHIPS
Anything can happen in a relationship, so allow for it!
Better yet, rejoice in it!!
BARBER'S EIGHTH RULE OF RELATIONSHIPS
Someone who only comes to you during the bad times in their life, will leave you each time you turn their bad times into good times.
BARBER'S NINTH RULE OF RELATIONSHIPS
Pain in a relationship is not an indication of how good a relationship is (as in, I can't believe how much I love this person; I want them so much it hurts), but rather how much is wrong with the relationship. Pain is telling us when it is time to move away; to pull our hand out of the flame.
The problem is that too many of us come to worship the pain, believing that it is the pain that makes the relationship real; and usually for too long we don't realize that it really is pain that we're feeling, and not some other emotion instead.
BARBER'S TENTH RULE OF RELATIONSHIPS
Never get involved with someone who is never wrong. (The only remaining option in such a relationship is that you must always be wrong.)
Monday Sickness on a Thursday Morning
I dragged myself out of bed this morning, checked my mobile for any messages. There was none but I had a missed call alert from my girlfriend. I stayed downstairs at the sala and waited for her to call (a morning ritual). The phone rang and we talked about going to HK this year in preparation for our plans to go to Canada. We’re both excited with the idea of going outside of the country to relax, shop and yay…have fun. When my supergirl barkada passed her interview at the Canadian embassy the other day, we couldn’t help ourselves not to plan for it as well. Life sucks right now (well not the lovelife part tho) and the prospect of escaping to another country can be downright tempting. I’ve been playing with the idea in my head for quite sometime but I guess this year is the best time to bring that idea out of the drawing board and start doing something about it.
New Employer
By this time, Tine, my housemate, was already awake. She automatically headed to the bathroom to shower. It was already 9:00 when I put the phone down and did some showering myself. I am late for work which btw starts at 9:00. Under normal circumstances I would be very much in a hurry to go to the office. But not today because I have an appointment with my new employer…yep, you read that right…new employer! I am signing today a job offer and I am submitting my resignation the morning after.
Memo Trouble
I arrived at the office at around 10:30. I was looking for my logsheet usually placed on top of my boss’ table. She probably noticed that I was looking for it so she told me that she placed it on my desk. I found it but it came with an attachment, a memo. It read:
This is to call your attention regarding your consistent tardiness and failure to log in your time sheet. You have been remiss of this responsibility since I have started monitoring the Marketing Staff’s attendance.
Let this serve as your first warning.
Should you still fail to comply, I will have to elevate your situation to JGBC.
For your compliance.
I am so sure this will be a very good day....not! I will halt a bit on blogging and try to work.
New Employer
By this time, Tine, my housemate, was already awake. She automatically headed to the bathroom to shower. It was already 9:00 when I put the phone down and did some showering myself. I am late for work which btw starts at 9:00. Under normal circumstances I would be very much in a hurry to go to the office. But not today because I have an appointment with my new employer…yep, you read that right…new employer! I am signing today a job offer and I am submitting my resignation the morning after.
Memo Trouble
I arrived at the office at around 10:30. I was looking for my logsheet usually placed on top of my boss’ table. She probably noticed that I was looking for it so she told me that she placed it on my desk. I found it but it came with an attachment, a memo. It read:
This is to call your attention regarding your consistent tardiness and failure to log in your time sheet. You have been remiss of this responsibility since I have started monitoring the Marketing Staff’s attendance.
Let this serve as your first warning.
Should you still fail to comply, I will have to elevate your situation to JGBC.
For your compliance.
I am so sure this will be a very good day....not! I will halt a bit on blogging and try to work.
Friday, May 28, 2004
Dreaming in Laoag
Come away with me in the night
Come away with me
And I will write you a song
Come away with me on a bus
Come away where they can't tempt us
With their lies
I want to walk with you
On a cloudy day
In fields where the yellow grass grows knee-high
So won't you try to come
Come away with me and we'll kiss
On a mountaintop
Come away with me
And I'll never stop loving you
And I want to wake up with the rain
Falling on a tin roof
While I'm safe there in your arms
So all I ask is for you
To come away with me in the night
Come away with me
Thank you for giving me the best birthday gift ever...you.
Wednesday, May 26, 2004
The Long Bus Ride Away from Home
I am leaving this morning with a heavy heart. I didn't like what I saw a few hours ago. I wasn't really ready for that. I can never be ready for that. I'm feeling weird right now but I hope the bus ride will sedate me...numb my troubled mind.
Tuesday, May 25, 2004
Afternoon Delights
Finally a blog site to inspire me...since my honey introduced me to the 'blogging scene' (as i would call it), I've been desperately looking for a blog site to call home. My constant visits to different blogsites the past few weeks inspired (if i may use the term again) me to concentrate and improve on my very own literary and 'graphical' domain. I'm using a template right now but it should be a good start. I guess I have to brush up on my HTML and install my dreamweaver to give my site its own character and hopefully, reflect my personality. This is my blog entry 1... more to come. I'm going to Laoag in a few hours and I'll be back on friday...i hope.
Monday, May 24, 2004
Travel Tool
My discman will come in very handy for the next few days. I hope I don't forget to pack my batteries and my reggae cds
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